Why is it mostly the case that people are quick at criticizing? Correction? I doubt that! If you have ever criticized someone who I know you may have even done more than once, how did it turn out? Were the results desirable? I guess not. I am just trying to get you thinking, to get you to question why you engage in a whole lot of criticizing sometimes without even thinking. It’s a fact we all do criticize. But before your next criticism, do read this to the end. It will make you think twice.
Why do we criticize?
Criticisms are expressions of what is good or bad in either written or spoken, criticisms are mostly done in an attempt to correct. However, some individuals just do so because it makes them feel good. For whatever reason you criticize, just think twice before doing so. I will tell you why you should. Criticisms aren’t actually that bad if done rightly. Most criticisms are done in a state of anger which makes the language of expression harsh and impolite. But if you are criticizing for the purpose of correction it shouldn’t be so. I believe you may have come across the phrase “constructive criticism”. Well, I think it’s become nothing but just an adage. If the criticism is not well presented, it will be destructive instead of corrective. One thing is sure, most people who are criticized try to justify their acts and defend themselves because they were criticized and blamed. This is our nature. We are defensive and will not accept our faults when we are approached wrongly.
Criticism isn’t bad at all but…
Criticizing may seem all natural and a good way to get someone back on his/her feet, but it in fact isn’t. It does the opposite instead. Criticisms possess the power to instantly kill. Yes, kill. Criticisms can kill initiatives as well as cause people to commit suicide. Some criticisms make one so downtrodden that one feels so useless and worthless, without a good self-esteem suicide seems a reasonable option to consider. Initiatives, good ones can also be destroyed by criticisms from people. Criticizing people’s initiatives doesn’t provide them the needed courage to proceed, eventually killing ideas. In human relations, being a critique isn’t a good practice at all. The fact that people are defensive and will do all in their power to protect their image should be enough to tell you that being a critique is no good idea. Criticizing develops hatred between people because friends become like enemies, one blaming and another defending.
“Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances”
Understanding is a better activity
The whole idea of this article is not to condemn criticisms but to help you become aware of what your criticisms are capable of resulting into. Keep In mind what criticisms can do, it’ll help you to when and how and what to criticize. For correction, criticism should be done in a gentle manner which will raise awareness in the criticized what she did wrong and how the matter can be resolved or should be done next time. I think this approach to criticizing others will create an environment of peace and continuous learning. Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.” Criticisms are not bad and are supposed to help develop one another but if done wrongly the reverse is true. So next time you want to criticize, don’t forget to think twice and do so constructively.
“God himself, Sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Why should you and I?